In one of the forums that I frequent, I asked beautiful women if they could give advice to those who want to approach beautiful women for dating. Here are some of their responses:
"I have never been impressed with any guy 'making a move' on me. Whatever happened was always some circumstance where interaction was necessary. Nobody I've been interested in has ever approached me though and I was always too shy to do the approaching unless I was drunk."
"Even a hot guy doing an obvious 'move' suddenly becomes unattractive to me."
"Go up and talk, show an interest in THEM, ask what they do, what they like, don't say anything too corny, and make them laugh.... quite simple really... Oh, and tell them they're beautiful!! lol However, if they don't fancy you straight off, you're probably stuffed no matter what!"
"The best line I had was 'want to come and see my cats' lol They were really cute by the way - 2 black fluffy ones curled up together on an armchair."
Hey - how come nobody is adding anything to this? Is it because you're tired of being hit on? Or is it because the above replies pretty much cover it? Perhaps you are scared to answer because that means you are admitting to being beautiful. :)
Remember, I'm looking for advice from WOMEN or GIRLS, not men.
Liza, Well I'm not a woman or a girl but I'm going to replt to this thread anyway because I find this discussion board very interesting and thought-provoking. And no one else has responded so I hope you'll indulge me.
From my experience when approaching a beautiful woman it is best to just be yourself. We are all just people after all! I will strike up a conversation and just let the dynamic flow. If she's not interested I'll politely excuse myself and talk to someone else. It's actually not a big deal. It's only a big deal if the man is insecure and instinctively feels he is "out of his league" on his approach. All women can smell that sort of fear and lack of confidence right away...especially the beautiful ones! matt gillespie
Well, I wasn't going to post anything until you accused "me" of being too scared to. Now I've got to just to prove it isn't so. So, for advice...
-Smile and say hi instead of staring or pretending not to look.
-We're lonely because practically no one (male or female) will initiate conversations unless they're hitting on us/want something.
-If you think we're aloof or stuck up, remember we feel like a zoo animal in a cage most of the time. We're "on stage" no matter where we go and who doesn't get stage fright?
-We know a lot of people like our looks (because they tell us) but we can feel as attractive as dog poop on the sidewalk because we get studiously ignored most of the time.
Whell honestly I am really attracted to a guy who uses something different or interesting as an ice breaker. No stupid things or things that are usually said but someone unique and funny is a plus. GorgeousMa
Conversation always helps. A lot of men use joking put downs. This is a turn off. It shows insecurity. A man who is secure with himself will just be happy with conversation to see where it goes.
Yes, conversation is a good way to get to know each other. Perhaps meeting in a place other than a bar would help create a more natural setting for a real conversation.
