It is very hard for me to meet new girls, I am a shy person. so when I start a conversation. sometimes, too much thinking of what to say, I actually ends up without nothing to say afterall, or sometimes it's all just nonensense and boring stuffs. hehe
I would prefer that a man simply come up to me and say "Hello, my name is...what's yours?" Most men approach me by coming up and saying something like "You're hot" or "Has anyone ever told you you're a very sexy woman?" Of course that's always flattering to hear and great for a quick ego boost, but something about it seems rather disingenuous and insincere. I'm not doubting whether these men think I'm pretty, but I AM questioning their motives. And having a trust issue before you even know someones name is NOT a good way to start! I was in the grocery store a few weeks ago and a man was next to me in the frozen food aisle. We both needed something from the same freezer, and he gestured for me to go first. As he waited for me to get my item, he smiled and said "Hello!", then "That's a pretty dress you're wearing." I was so flustered and surprised that I barely knew what to do with myself! I think I mumbled a thank you, said something about the ease of cooking frozen food, then scrambled out of the aisle as fast as my feet would take me. Embarrassed by my reaction, I spent the rest of the trip hoping to see him again so that I could redeem myself with a smile and some witty, clever comment, but alas...he was gone. This was NOT a terribly good-looking guy. He wasn't particularly well dressed, he didn't look like he had much money, in fact, just the opposite! He looked like perhaps he'd just hopped out of his Ford F250, worn out from a long day of hunting or something. He wasn't the kind of guy I could ever see myself choosing to date. However, his genuinely humble approach - his smile - was so disarming that I found myself thinking about him for the rest of the night! I've always fancied myself as a woman who knows how to deal with men and their pick-up lines, but when one came up to me and was actually NICE, with no cheap come-on, I had NO idea what to say or do. I'm not single at the moment, but if I were and if this man had asked me out, without a doubt, I would've said "yes" soley based on the way he approached me. So guys...it DOES matter what you say and how you say it. Say something nice and mean it. Introduce yourself. Ask her for her name, not her digits! Women KNOW when you have an agenda, it's like a 6'th sense for us! Just be yourselves and we'll respond. It really IS that simple.
I think being treated with respect and not rudeness or nastiness is always a good start for any woman! Some men seem to think that by being off with you, you are going to respond in anger. This is school boy mentality and for me, this then means I dont even want to speak to that man full stop.
Hey - how come nobody is adding anything to this? Is it because you're tired of being hit on? Or is it because the above replies pretty much cover it? Perhaps you are scared to answer because that means you are admitting to being beautiful. :)
Remember, I'm looking for advice from WOMEN or GIRLS, not men.
I am happily married now, but for me the best was to take interest in me as a friend and don't treat me any special way other than a friend. If it's meant to be, allow plenty of time for this friendship to blossom into romance. Remember, a good and trusting friend to a beautiful woman means more than it would for an average woman. She will really appreciate you and you have to earn her trust that you love her for her and not just for her looks. That's why it might take awhile for her to get convinced.
Also, because I was alway being chased by men, even if I was attracted to a guy and he showed any affection towards me, I was turned off immediately and that was it. I needed someone who would give me a chance to win their love. My husband did a very good job. I had to chase him for awhile and he even dumped me at one point in our relationship (he wanted to make sure I was the right girl for him). It only made me want him even more.
Even in the marriage, he still makes me work for his affection a lot of times and that keeps the relationship fresh and interesting for both of us.
And just another note, my husband doesn't make a lot of money (I make more than him) and he is just an average looking guy. Not all attractive women are gold diggers. We live a very simple and quite country life and I grew up in a very big city. So you average men, just be yourself and it will take you much further than boasting about all your past romances or all have money you have or make. That's the worst thing you can do. Only a gold digger will appreciate that information about you. Average guys have just as much of a chance with a beautiful woman as the handsome ones.
